I’ve been a Beachbody coach for less than a month. It’s been an amazing experience and I already have an amazing group of people starting out and giving me this opportunity to help others out. In my short amount of time, I learned a very important first lesson as a Beachbody coach. I learned the kind of coach I don’t want to be.
I was introduced to Beachbody through my amazing friend (and now coach), Lauren, who I had met years ago through the WeightWatchers® online community. She was nearby and we had spent some time offline and in person together as well. She helped introduce me to the 21 Day Fix® program. A few months prior to becoming a coach, I had also found another Beachbody coach online (through Instagram). I loved her posts, her energy, her motivation. She seemed so fun and down-to-earth. She was hosting a weight loss challenge and I took her up on the opportunity to join. I gave her full disclosure that I was already under another coach. She immediately said that she had a strict policy of not taking on anyone that was already under another coach. I really respected and admired her for this. I told her that I understood, but asked if she minded if I participated in her challenge group. She said that was fine.
So, I participated in her challenge group. After the challenge was over, she privately messaged me and told me that I should really consider coaching. She even went as far as to offer me the opportunity to chat with her on the phone about coaching. I did and I gave her my main objections: 1) time and 2) my being very far from my goal weight. She helped me overcome those objections immediately. I have to give her full kudos to really talking me out of my fear and hesitation in becoming a coach.
This presented the following dilemma: Do I sign up as a coach under her? A new online friend I had just met? Or, do I sign up as a coach under Lauren, my coach who introduced me to Beachbody and my “real-life” friend? I felt that the right thing to do was to become a coach under Lauren. Lauren was introduced to Beachbody through another mutual WeightWatchers® online friend, so I knew that I’d be in good hands regardless. She had been a Beachbody coach for about a year, she was local, her journey was closer to mine, and I just felt a stronger bond and connection with her. So, I took the plunge on July 21st and I became a Beachbody coach.
Then, something odd happened. I reached out to the other coach and thanked her for her encouragement and to let her know that I had signed up. She responded with a simple thumbs up emoji. Then, a few days later, she sent me a message that said something like, “Hey! Haven’t talked to you in a while. How are things going?” and I thought that was odd because we had just exchanged messages and I had told her about how I had become a coach. And then I responded how I was just getting things going with being a coach and whatnot. She just responded again with another generic acknowledgement response. That was the last I would hear from her.
Fast forward to yesterday when I went to her Facebook page to check something out and then came to the shocking realization that she had unfriended me. I wasn’t sure why she would unfriend me when all of her posts are public. My immediate reaction was to take it personally. Why would she do that? What did I do?
I then got a bit upset and discouraged about this coaching experience because it’s this kind of catty high school bullshit that has kept me from doing this kind of stuff throughout my life in the first place. Fake cliquish women pretending to be nice to one another. Ugh! I hate that so much. It is the reason why I was a bit of a loner throughout high school and college. It is the reason why I didn’t join a sorority. It is the reason why I dropped out of Junior League. I felt like I was going through it all over again.
But then I thought about why I decided to become a coach in the first place. I thought about those who introduced and brought me to Beachbody. My coaches, Lauren and Courtney, are two of the most down-to-earth, encouraging, and real people that I know. They come from a place of love and open arms. I ultimately decided to become a coach because I already saw that I was helping others around me through just living my life and inspiring others to want to join this journey with me. I then realized that just having a handful of clients would help me pay for my own Shakeology. Anything else beyond my Shakeology subscription was just icing on the cake. This coach deleting me wasn’t personal. This coach didn’t even know me. She didn’t really care about me or my journey. I am certain that she would have been my biggest cheerleader and would have loved and adored me and all of the skills and energy that I have to bring had I signed up as a coach under her. She was in a business and her business as a Beachbody coach is to make money. She made it very clear that if you were not a part of her Beachbody business, then you were not someone she wanted to continue to invest her time or energy in. Not everyone is like this coach though. And like most things in life, you take the good with the bad.
I decided to look at the positive side of what happened. There was a big lesson that could be taken away from this experience. I learned in the first two weeks as a Beachbody coach the type of coach that I want to be. I figured out my WHY I decided to get into coaching. I got into coaching to help other people reach their goals. I am in the trenches with those I am coaching and coaching will help me hold myself accountable in the process.
I share with you an image from this unfriending Beachbody coach’s Instagram account, which I found ironic. It says: “Girls compete with each other. Women empower one another.” That being said, I personally vow to do my best to help support, encourage, and inspire other fellow Beachbody coaches the way the Beachbody coaches in my life have done for me!
Thank you, MFM, for encouraging me to become a Beachbody coach and for helping me overcome my personal fears and objections. And thank you for teaching me such an important lesson so early on in my coaching career. I am sorry that you will miss out on my amazing journey and the awesome friendship that comes along with it.
Farewell and my sincerest best wishes to you! ♥