GET OUT OF YOUR OWN WAY.

Truer words were never more evident for me. I have done a lot of amazing things in my own life, but almost 2 years following the COVID-19 pandemic and the world shutting down and nearing 2 years since the passing of my beloved grandmother, and I find myself sitting here realizing that I have lost a spark I once found and had. Fear, doubt, worry, and a lack of belief in myself have now set in. The version of me I was even 2 years ago seems like a complete stranger to me. The person I see in the mirror these days feels like a stranger or perhaps someone I once used to know for many years and thought I would never see again.

Change happens when the pain of staying the same is greater than the pain of change.
-Tony Robbins

I am far too smart to continue to be the only thing holding myself back from the things that I want in life. I found that spark and that confidence once before. I can do it again. It’s time to get to work.

Showing Up for Yourself.

show-up-for-yourself-healthyhapachickI am going through a coaching training program that’s been truly amazing.  It is helping me build skills that will directly impact my everyday job, which involves consulting and coaching attorneys, but I am also seeing how this impacts my everyday life.  How I communicate with people and how I can take the skills I’m learning to impact potentially everything that I do.

Today, I had to do an exercise with some of my other coaching participants.  It involved being a coach, a participant or an observer.  The participant had to set up a problem he or she had and the coach and observer put together a metaphor that would then guide the participant to a potential “Aha!” moment, relating the metaphor to the problem that they had.  The goal was to have participants utilize real-life problems, so that the exercise was authentic and genuine.

Having struggled this past week with a few things, I had my problem ready to go.

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To Compare or Not to Compare

If you’re on Instagram and following a variety of health/weight loss accounts, then you’re probably already aware of a lot of weekly posting rituals.  You’ve got the #mondaymotivation, #transformationtuesday, #wcw, #throwbackthursday, #flashbackfriday, #selfiesaturday.  A lot of it appears to be around the idea of posting a photo of yourself and many of them comparison photos.

In the past few months, I have had multiple people criticize the concept of the side-by-side comparison.  One person told me it was a reason they quit Weight Watchers®, others have announced they would unfollow your account if you posted any before/after (or then/now) photos, and many have moved towards an effort to try and get people to stop looking back, appreciate where you are right now and in the present moment.

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Motivation vs. Focus

I recently received this question through my website: Have you ever lost motivation and, if so, how did you get it back?

I had to really think about how to answer that question.  And then it just hit me.  I don’t think that I have ever lost my motivation; however, I have most certainly lost my FOCUS.  Does that make sense?

I feel like my motivation and desire to continue to lose weight is there.  It’s never gone away.  But my FOCUS on how to get me to where I want to be has most certainly waned here and there throughout my journey.  And, in fact, every since March, my focus has NOT been on point at all.

I am happy to say that I’ve recently been able to get it together and get myself refocused.  When I thought about what happened to get me to refocus and get back on track, I realized it was a compound effect of all of the following things…

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How to Get Motivated Again When You Feel Stuck

For the last few months, I’ve felt stuck in my weight loss journey. I think it all started in September when I got injured after the Disney Half Marathon (which was followed by Conquer the Bridge and then a basketball tournament in Las Vegas). I was diagnosed with tendinosis (chronic tendinitis) in my right leg. An injury I got from a lack of proper and consistent training for my significant activities in September and general overuse.

In October, I focused on my food instead. And despite having a week-long work trip in Washington, D.C., I lost 14.2lbs just focusing on my food!

But then November and December hit. I managed to maintain, which is good. I was going to physical therapy and taking a break from basketball and much of my regular exercise routines.

I thought January would be a reset. New Year, New Me, right? WRONG.

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